by Fergal Claddagh

Question by Andie: All the single Christian ladies…are you happy too?
We live in a relationship-minded society, in which singles are portrayed in movies as lonely TV-dinner-eating cat owners with longings for a special person to make them whole. Within churches especially, there seems to be a surge of singles groups and Christian dating services. Within this culture, there seems to be little room for the single 30-ish Christian woman who is actually happy with her life as it is. When people find out that I am 30 years old, not in a relationship (and not actively searching for one), and actually happy, I tend to get variations of the following reactions:

“You can’t really be happy. You must be in denial.”
“Oh, you’ll know what happiness is when you’re married, dear.”
“Single? Really? Why do you have relationship phobias?

I acknowledge the joy that can come with marriage, and I am happy for my friends who are happily married. But I wonder if I am really so rare. Surely there are other women out there who are not jaded by negative past relationships, but rather simply love their lives and do not feel the need to join a singles group to feel fulfilled. Well…is there?

Best answer:

Answer by Izzy
I am divorced and a single mommy of two. I have been single for almost two years now and have dedicated my life to God 100%. I am so happy being single. Life isn’t all about having a mate.

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by . SantiMB .

Finding Christian singles is a tough task in the real world. How do you know which of all the people you contact each day has a Christian heart? There are plenty of good people around who don’t follow the Christian faith.

For many Christians, its important to date, and especially marry, people who share their beliefs. So for personal relationships, they would like to find other Christians. That’s why many go online to find Christian singles.

Going online is a great way to meet others. It makes the searching part of the task so much easier. You can find Christian websites that cater to those seeking Christians for friendship and dating. That saves you the awkward experience of asking about someone’s beliefs.

When you find a Christian site, you know that the others on the site are also Christian singles. This already gives you a great foundation to build on. It also gives you an immediate conversation base to build on.

Many Christian singles use Christian dating services. These ask you to fill out a complete profile about yourself, your beliefs, likes and dislikes. They’ll ask about your personality and preferences.

These services then match you up with other Christian singles that have similar beliefs and preferences and compatible personalities. They will also match you by location, if you specify that preference.

There are some commercial sites that don’t specifically cater to Christians, but have categories for Christians. These can also be helpful. Many Christians prefer to use Christian only services, however.

When filling out a profile, be sure that you are honest. Don’t use answers that you wish described you, and don’t use responses because you think others want to see that kind of answer. Be yourself, and be truthful.

If you are, you’ll have a much better chance of finding the right people to date. If you aren’t honest, it will show in a very short time once you begin communicating with someone. It’s never good to begin a relationship on deception.

If you write a good profile, that’s the first step. Don’t forget to take great photos and post those as well. People are much more comfortable contacting someone when they can see a face. It’s important that they can connect your name to something tangible.

Another route some Christians take is the online personal ad. Like dating services, there are Christian-specific personal ad sites as well. They post screened personal ads from Christians only.

The ads are less detailed, but also less involved, than dating profiles. It’s much less expensive to be a member of a personal ad site, so that is a benefit for some people. There is usually an option for only one photo.

For some people, Christian personals work great. Others want the further detail and profiling that comes with an online dating service.

Whatever way you choose to meet Christian singles online you’ll be pleased with how easy it is to find those in your area that share your beliefs when you go online.

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by Joost J. Bakker IJmuiden

Is it tough to find Christian singles? In the past, it was not so much tough as much as it was limited. There were not all that many venues in which one could look to find a partner that was a devout Christian.

Now, with the advent of internet dating, the possibility to find a paramour that matches your religious convictions is a lot easier. And it can be done with far less complexity than some assumed it would require. Again, this is because of the development of online Christian dating services that have opened the door to make it a lot easier to find Christian singles.

The advent of dating sites that seek to help other find Christian singles is indicative of a new trend in targeted dating sites. This is not to say that the general sites are problematic. It is just that you need to perform a lot more searching in order to find someone that is more compatible with your specific needs.

And if you do not find a person that is completely compatible with you on something as important as sharing religious convictions, you may not have a successful relationship. And there really is nothing more frustrating than having a relationship that fails.

When you work with a site that allows you to find Christian singles, such problems do, eventually, cease to be a problem. Well, maybe not all relationship and compatibility problems disappear, but the issue of religious compatibility will often dissipate. This is thanks to the potential to sign on with a site that helps you find Christian singles.

The popularity of dating sites designed to help you find Christian singles has risen to its present heights based on the fact that these sites work tremendously well in terms of their usability.

This means that any person that signs on with one of these sites can feel quite confident in the notion that the sites are easy to navigate. Which also means you can effectively search the site to meet someone that fits your dating criteria.

And, of course, the ability to sign on and produce an excellent and effective user profile is possible as well. You need not possess any specialized knowledge regarding design or site development.

A basic profile can be produced in a relatively simple manner and in a short period of time. That could be considered a huge plus for those that might not be all that familiar with the membership websites since their enthusiasm would probably be reduced if they were weighed down by complicated profile requirements.

Honestly, if you can add a little text and a few photographs, you will discover making a profile is not all that tough. You could even have a great profile made in a few minutes and be well on your way towards your goal to find Christian singles. And that is the main goal, is it not? It all starts with a solid profile and a site that promotes the ability to put together a profile rather easily will certainly be a site worth exploring.